- Prepare feedback by answering their questions
- Explore other possible situations beyond the ones asked
- Make sure to evaluate strengths , weaknesses , and gray areas
- Write down bullet points of what you wish to say
: how to begin, develop, and end
- Elaborate how this information will be easier to process, and then build a cohesive, empathetic, and logical timeline for your feedback.
Check for possible
, the unseen, or
you may have
- If you are giving feedback to someone who is part of a marginalized group, think about if you would feel the same way if it was a white cisgender, middle-class man. Is it still valid and applicable?
- Review to make sure it's actionable and achievable
- Optional: book a private place to discuss sensitive topics
- Optional: bring studies and data if you want to prove a strong statement
Define which is the best language to
with this person
- Adapt your language to fit their context. Be clear and direct , but not rude.
reasoning for your feedback
- Explain why and how that is affecting the workplace.
examples to contextualize
what you mean
- Examples help ground us and contextualize the problems in time and space, instead of just being a hypothetical situation discussion.
- Think about the whole communication aspects and experience. Depending on how you phrase something, people will interpret the same information in very different ways.
how you feel
and speak about your own experience
- Don't assume everyone looks at the same situation as you do. This way, you don’t annulate other life experiences, and you don’t sound arrogant.
- Show empathy and share similar situations you've been through in the past
- Make yourself available to help
- Offer possible ways to tackle the situation
Control your expectations
of how others will react or apply your feedback
- You did your job, which was to make them aware. Now it’s on their hands, let go from pressuring them into submission or the need to be proven right.
- Optional: if they look for your guidance, make sure to follow-up on their development